Surrender And Acceptance Are The Keys To Change

Co-written by: Kay Neal and Rayna Piazza

Surrender and Acceptance blog by Rayna Piazza and Kay Neal. Kay Neal is the author of "Marry Me"

Have you ever wondered why change can be so hard? I know we have! In this blog post, Kay and I are sharing our hearts on what we have learned about change. The two keys to change are sowing the seed of surrender and living in full acceptance.

Inquiring About Change

Kay and I were on the phone one day and she told me she was conversing with Jesus thanking Him for His great blessings in her life. She said to Jesus, “I feel like I’ve given You so little, Jesus, and I’ve gotten so much back. It seems like what I have given is so small in comparison to the blessing and the breakthrough that I have received.” Jesus responded saying, “Kay, you’ve given Me the seed of surrender and once the seed is planted, I can multiply it! I take what you plant and I multiply it.”

“I take what you plant and I multiply it.”


The Seed of Surrender

Wow! What a revelation. The seed of surrender is planted then Jesus can multiply it for our blessing, our breakthrough, and to grow the kingdom of God. There’s a season for planting the seed, a season for the seed to grow, and then a season for the harvest. How do we get from seed to harvest? The answers are surrender and acceptance. Let’s start with surrender.

As we just explained, we sow the seed of surrender and Jesus multiplies it. If God has your heart then He can move. Surrendering your will is how you give Him your heart. He honors your seed of surrender.

Now this is a difficult place because you are relinquishing control. You are surrendering it all to Him. You worship Him in the fire. This means that you worship right in the midst of your emotional pain. It is a vulnerable place. Surrender to Jesus and ask Him to unlock your heart. Ask Him to show you everything in your heart, good and bad, then yield to the process. You can read more on Jesus leading you out here.

Yield To The Process of Surrender

When you yield to the process you are saying, “Jesus, I surrender and I want You to lead me.” Jesus endured the cross for the joy set before Him. This means that He took on the pain of the cross because He knew how much blessing and breakthrough you would receive. You are the joy set before Him. It was the joy of accomplishing the goal to be in union with you and because Jesus wants to live all of His eternity with you. How amazing is that?!!

…Jesus, who is the Author and Perfecter of faith [the first incentive for our belief and the One who brings our faith to maturity], who for the joy [of accomplishing the goal] set before Him endured the cross, disregarding the shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God [revealing His deity, His authority, and the completion of His work].

Hebrews 12:2, The Amplified Bible

We can endure our emotional pain if we keep our eyes on Jesus. He will lead us and show us the way out. If we don’t suffer with Him then we can’t reign with Him. Suffering and surrender are part of the process. Meekness is yieldedness. Jesus was meek and yielded in heart.

The Meek Shall Inherit The Earth

Meekness is the place of being yielded. In Matthew 5:5, the New International Version, Jesus says in the beatitudes, “the meek shall inherit the earth.” If you go on to research other translations of this scripture you will find the words gentleness and humble are also used. Meekness is not weakness but rather a place of surrender and full trust in Jesus. It’s in this place of gentleness and humility that every promise comes to fruition and we get to enjoy abundant peace.

11 But the humble of heart will inherit every promise and enjoy abundant peace.

Psalm 37:11, The Passion Translation

When all you want is Jesus you get everything else. This is surrender.

Acceptance Is The Other Key To Change

Accepting your life as it is and trusting Jesus with the outcome is the other key to change. We have to lay down the desire to control outcomes and engineer situations for our advantage. Instead of controlling and manipulating, turn to Jesus and practice acceptance. Accept that you are powerless without Him. It is in this place of acceptance where you can rest in Him.

Getting Free From Our Bondage

Check out Psalm 126 below. When we get free from our bondage we will laugh and overflow with gladness. Streams of refreshing will flow over you until your dry heart is drenched again. You will be drenched in the love of Jesus and surrounded by His healing presence.

1 It was like a dream come true when you freed us from our bondage and brought us back to Zion! 2 We laughed and laughed and overflowed with gladness. We were left shouting for joy and singing your praise. All the nations saw it and joined in, saying, “The Lord has done great miracles for them!” 3 Yes, he did mighty miracles and we are overjoyed! 4 Now, Lord, do it again! Restore us to our former glory! May streams of your refreshing flow over us until our dry hearts are drenched again. 5 Those who sow their tears as seeds will reap a harvest with joyful shouts of glee. 6 They may weep as they go out carrying their seed to sow, but they will return with joyful laughter and shouting with gladness as they bring back armloads of blessing and a harvest overflowing!

Psalm 126: 1-6, The Passion Translation

Sow Your Tears As Seeds

As we sow our tears as seeds Jesus can reap us a harvest that will bring joyful laughter, armloads of blessing, and a life overflowing with His goodness. Does it get any better than that?

Do you know how a potter knows that his pottery is complete? It’s when the piece of pottery sings in the fire! When you can surrender your life, accept your life, and worship in the fire, Jesus can move POWERFULLY in your life. You can experience exponential results! The keys are surrender and acceptance. When the seed multiplies it comes back with exponential blessing and breakthrough.

What Is Blocking My Breakthrough?

The seed of rebellion is what blocks the breakthrough. If you find that you cannot yield then you have a seed of rebellion and it needs to be removed. If you ask Him, Jesus will reveal to you where you have rebellion and He will remove it from your heart. Dig that seed up and plant a seed of surrender in its place!

Rebellion blocks our hearts because it is a place of resistance. We cannot receive Jesus in our hearts if we are resisting Him. And, without Jesus all of it means nothing. You can have all the “stuff” but without Jesus it doesn’t satisfy. When your satisfaction comes from Him, you can enjoy everything else.

33 “So above all, constantly seek God’s kingdom  and his righteousness, then all these less important things will be given to you abundantly.  34 Refuse to worry about tomorrow, but deal with each challenge that comes your way, one day at a time.  Tomorrow will take care of itself.”

Matthew 6:33-34, The Passion Translation

If we find that we cannot yield certain areas of our heart then we are hindered because we cannot live in union with Jesus with that part of our heart. The beauty of it all is that Jesus is ready and waiting to heal your heart. He wants to marry you and to be in union with you for all of your days.

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Learning About Union

Kay wrote an entire book on being in union with Jesus. It’s a life changing message of how and why we marry Jesus. The book is called, “Marry Me” by Kay Neal. You can get your copy here.

People wonder why they are unsatisfied. They are unfulfilled and they don’t know why. It is because life was never meant to be enjoyed without Jesus. As our Creator, Jesus designed our lives to be in union with Him. Jesus wants to give us everything, but not outside of Him.

Here’s the description of the book: When Kay fully surrendered to love and said yes to union—marriage—with Jesus, it radically changed her life. She had been a Christian for many years, but when this took place, she walked out of a cycle of defeat that held her captive for over thirty years. Coming into her identity as the beloved bride of Christ changed everything.

At its heart, Marry Me is a book about the passionate, relentless love of God that never stopped pursuing. Kay has a powerful testimony that will make you hungry to go deeper in your relationship with God and want to give Jesus your yes too. Join her on the road to reformation and be encouraged by what the relentless love of God can do!

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