Last Updated on December 1, 2023 by Rayna
Are you ready to unlock your healing and get set free from emotional pain? If you have ever wondered why your emotional pain won’t go away then this post is for you. Emotional pain usually includes feelings like anxiety, helplessness, hopelessness, and anger to name a few. Did you know that you can’t have a feeling without first having a thought?
Unlocking Your Healing
To unlock your healing from emotional pain you need to find what caused it. You can find the first clue by identifying your feelings. Then, from there I’ll show you how to uncover your thought life. Finding the root of the pain is your end goal in this process. This might seem like a simple task but usually, it isn’t very easy. That’s why I decided to write this post with these simple techniques to help you unlock your emotional healing.
The root of your emotional pain is a traumatic event that changed your belief system. Jesus died on the cross for your healing and that includes healing from emotional pain.
I want to encourage you today to embrace your emotional pain because your pain has a purpose. It starts with changing your perspective and renewing your mind (Romans 12:2). Once I started to do these things, I was able to embrace my destiny and trust Jesus as it says in Psalm 16:5 in The Passion Translation (TPT).
YAHWEH, you alone are my inheritance. You are my prize, my pleasure, and my portion. You hold my destiny and its timing in your hands.
Psalm 16:5, TPT
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Changing Your Perspective On Emotional Pain
I realized through therapy sessions with my counselor that I had to first change my perspective on emotional pain to start to get to the root of the pain. Instead of looking at my feelings of anxiety and hopelessness as a negative part of my life, I chose to use my emotional pain as a guide.
Your pain indicates exactly where God wants to release more of His healing, peace, and authority in your life. I no longer look at my pain as something I loathe or as a hindrance in my life. If I find emotional pain welling up in my heart, then I know that there is more healing in my future and I get excited!
Knowing the root of my emotional pain, which was my traumatic childhood experience of sexual abuse, catapulted me into my destiny. You can read more of my story of overcoming the pain of childhood sexual abuse here.
I now live a life free of the devastating emotional pain. I am not on any medications now (although I was during my trauma counseling days) and I now utilize my coping skills to get through life. My prayer is that you will receive this same radical, emotional healing as you implement these four techniques in your life.
4 Easy Steps To Connect Your Thought Life To Your Emotional Pain
I want to teach you the four techniques you can implement to connect your thought life to your emotional pain and get set free. This connection is vital to your healing.
Step #1: Repent and Forgive
To access your thoughts you must first repent and then forgive those who have hurt you. You are repenting for your role in the situation, which may be holding a grudge or judging the person who hurt you. I also want you to extend forgiveness to your abusers and the ones who caused you pain. You can read about how to forgive here.
Once you cleanse your heart with repentance and you extend forgiveness then you free yourself to deal with the root of your emotional pain. Until these two steps are completed your hands are tied because you are in agreement with the lies of the enemy.
14 “And when you pray, make sure you forgive the faults of others so that your Father in heaven will also forgive you. 15 But if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.”
Matthew 6:14-15, TPT
Step #2: Journal About Your Negative Thoughts
I recommend setting some quiet time aside to write down each negative thought that is swirling in your brain. Get yourself a journal and give yourself time to write. The way to identify your thoughts is to track your feelings. Every time you feel anxiety, ask yourself, “What was I thinking?” Begin a habit of writing down your thoughts. Once you have repented and have extended forgiveness to those who caused you emotional pain, the thinking will pour out of you.
If you are hitting a road block and cannot uncover your thinking then I recommend this simple prayer:
Jesus, I give You permission to search my heart and show me where I have negative thinking. Please uncover my thought life and reveal to me the connection between my thoughts and my emotional pain. Where is the root and when did the emotional pain in my life start? I ask You to fully heal me of the pain I am experiencing. I pray this in Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Step #3: Determine The Root Of Your Emotional Pain
Ask Jesus to show you the root of where these thoughts started. Journal about when was the first time you began thinking negatively. How old were you and what happened? Write down the details and allow yourself to really remember the specifics of that time in your life.
Repent and forgive again in any area where your heart hurts. Remember this, you are repenting for agreeing with the lies of the enemy and asking Jesus to cleanse your heart with His truth.
Jesus said to the people who believed in him, “You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
John 8:31-32, NLT
Step #4: Receive Healing From Jesus
The next step is to receive healing from Jesus. Many people forgive, repent, and pray but they have no idea how to receive healing. I want to encourage you to consistently sit with Jesus and journal with Him. Write down the negative thoughts that torment you. Write out an explanation of your feelings. For example, I feel anxiety because…and fill in the blank.
Use your imagination to picture yourself with Jesus. Imagine Him giving you a present. Hold the present in your hands, open the box, and look inside to see your healing. Take it out of the box and receive it. The healing may look like a ball of light, a ring for your finger, or something that has special meaning to you. Whatever Jesus shows you, embrace it and receive it as your healing. Journal about how you feel, what Jesus says to you, and what your personal healing looks like in your heart.
My prayer is that these four techniques will lead you to an encounter with Jesus and Holy Spirit. As you seek Him you will find him.
And without faith living within us it would be impossible to please God. For we come to God in faith knowing that he is real and that he rewards the faith of those who passionately seek him.
Hebrews 11:6, TPT
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